Friday, January 9, 2009

Chaos of Clutter

I have enjoyed many different types of careers within my nursing career including 12 years spent as a homecare nurse. I like caring for patients and families on their turf. I learn so much about a person from their environment, it is an extension of their personality and often, pathologies. One memorable case really opened my eyes to the obessive compulsive disorder of hoarders.

This dear, sweet elderly woman lived alone in a 1200 square foot California bungalow with two bedrooms and a bathroom. I will have to take the fact there was a second bedroom on faith as the house, except for a narrow pathway, was unpassable. There were old newspapers, junk mail, catalogs, paper bags, and all manner of detritus stacked up on every available horizontal surface. It was a canyon of stuff leaning up against the walls in the hallway and the kitchen. Only one half of the stove top was accessible as the other half was covered with pots, pans, dishes, and trash. The patient had a double bed of which a narrow section was open for sleeping as the rest was covered with more newspapers, magazines, craft projects, and stuff. It was amazing as this woman was adamant nothing get thrown out. Needless to say, the house was a huge fire and safety hazard, especially for an elderly person with limited mobility. I worked with the community Fire Department and Social Worker to address this extreme situation. It was heartbreaking to see this, especially how distressing this is to the hoarder. It truly is a mental illness requiring professional pyschological assistance.

I am not a fan of tchtokes (knick knacks in Yiddish), but I enjoy art and have a few collections of things that are meaningful and bring me joy. I have to work hard to keep the clutter/mess monster at bay. It seems to be unavoidable fact of civilized life that stuff will creep into my living space. I have learned a few things so my house doesn't need an intervention from the city including:

I sort mail at the recycling bin, try to keep junk mail from entering the house.

All the stuff like bills, statements, important paperwork, I try to follow the mantra, "Handle paper only once". Which means, I will sort it, file it,or act on it, not bury it with the magazines and forget about it. No, no, no. Well, that's my goal anyway, my reality, well, Flylady I am not. Not even Flygirl. More like Penguin Waddle girl...

Anytime I get something new, like a new kitchen gadget, I will get rid of a something else in the kitchen. Or if it's a new pair of jeans, I will donate a pair of pants or other clothing (doesn't even have to be mine, could be the kids). This is based on the input/output system where your house is a closed system and if you take something in, you must also eliminate something, kind of like a living thing. Pretty cool, eh? We always keep a box in the garage for donations and just put them out there as they become redundant or outgrown, etc.

I plan for purging stuff on a semi regular basis or when the mood strikes. I like to enlist the boys in cleaning out old stuff when they expect an influx of new stuff like before the holidays or their birthdays. Our youngest son cracked me up when he brought me his old bathrobe to donate to Good.will after getting a new one for Christmas.

The mood to clean struck recently(like a blue moon, not too often) to clean out some closets and donate pillows and blankets to a local animal rescue, New Leash on Life. I was inspired also by the Blanket/Clothing Drive sponsored by AntiBloggedy which has a cool prize if you are struck with a mood to straighten and donate to a worthy cause in your community.

I appreciate the opportunity to clean up my act and do something for someone else too. Thank you and I would appreciate any tips you have to keep your environment or life more streamlined and peaceful.

CHAOS = Can't Have Anyone Over Syndrome

18 comments:

Kalei said...

Ooooh I am forever greatful! you truly are so sweet and thoughtful. It is important that you mentioned the women with the house filled to the point of suffocation who still did not see the need to eliminate her belongings....that could be any one of us! I will make a point to purge much more this spring and between now and then, the shelter will see me pretty frequently. I have asked other companies to get involved with the charity drive as well....so we will see what transpires! There may be more prizes....

Mrs. Spit said...

Oh, Flylady saved my sanity about 7 years ago.

I've fallen off the wagon a bit, but have really got out of the habit of keeping clutter.

Cara said...

Clutter stalks me. I'm fighting back - I swear.

areyoukiddingme said...

I'm going to start renting out my husband. He is constantly in purge mode - always wants to get rid of more stuff. He sells off extra furniture. He gives his family anything he thinks they will find useful. We make a trip to goodwill every month or two. Oddly, we don't buy that much stuff, so eventually we're not going to have anything! Soon he'll make me get rid of all the baby clothes/stuff...but I'm still holding out for another baby and we have to keep them as long as that's a possibility.

Barbara said...

We're both terrible clutterers. When we first got together I had a three foot high pile of clothes-in-the-process-of-being-sorted-out that I hid in my spare room the first time he saw my apartment. Eventually he sneaked in and had a look.

Things have gone a bit to pot for us over the last few months but normally every so often one or the other will have a Big Clear Out and the chaos is reigned for a moment.

I'm pleased to say that neither of us collects paper bags or junk mail.

xxx

KandiB said...

Our house is so tiny that its almost impossible to collect stuff...otherwise we wouldn't be able to walk. Clothing is my big issue. I have all these great pieces that I'm sure I'll fit into one day. And all this work out gear for a kajillion different sports. DH told me that if I got rid of all my clothes that I didn't wear/fit into, that he'd buy me a new wardrobe once I lost that "extra weight." That was pretty liberating. Who wants old clothes when you can have new? I have yet to take advantage of that offer...but someday :)

Unknown said...

oh, that is all so so true! i have discovered the joys of purging Stuff... but it took me nearly 50 years!!!! :)))

The Rambler said...

Great tips on keeping the junk mail out of the house.

My hubby usually tosses it in my car...(the bastard :).

I've tried the Flylady thing. I got to only the first 2 days of email before my email box overfloweth! But I got a shiny sink out of it so far :)

Kim said...

I try and follow the same mantra with paper and possesions. I have 6 paper recycle bins to make paper clutter go away. I really think paper breeds when we are not looking. I'm thankful our dump has a tag sale room and sells good used items. I donate things on a weekly basis. It's amazing how much stuff enters a house especially when you have kids.

MuseSwings said...

We do several trips to the Salvation Army each year. We are also tackling the things we haven't used in years and getting those off to someone who will use them. The Mister is the saver, so it's an uphill battle to keep things from stacking up here. Sounds like you have a really good grip on the situation!

Tiffany said...

I lived in Santa Clarita for years! My parents and in laws are both still there.

I recently re-organized and de-cluttered my home office. I swear, I can breathe now when I am in there!

Soralis said...

I suck at cleaning stuff out! I do try! We manage not to have to much clutter as it drives me crazy! But it seems I keep it somewhere in a cupboard or in storage. I am going to have to check out fly lady!

Sounds like you keep things under control at your house!

That poor lady with all the stuff... it's so hard for some to just let go

Heather said...

Even the little things I've learned from Flylady have been total lifesavers. I'm starting to get in the mode to want to clean everything. I think my brain knows I better nest before I get too big with these twins.

Susan said...

I'm not bad with clutter, really! I'm not into stuff all over that needs to be dusted.

But the bring something in, let go of something! Great! Great! Great!

I will add that to my practices!

Lori Lavender Luz said...

I spent the holidays at a hoarder's house, and it was not pleasant.

Can you recommend a book I could send?

I guess in some ways, that would defeat the purpose. And the person is not web-savvy, so a website won't do.

MrsSpock said...

I had a mental health client that hoarded like that. I had worked with his wife at a previous job, and was shocked that such a normal person could assent to living in such conditions. Rotten food everywhere, the stove piled with papers, and the odor of cats was overwhelming. The place was such a jungle, that the cats had bred and gone feral, and they no longer knew how many cats there were in the house.

It makes me cough just thinking about it!

KimboSue said...

D and I just purged our t-shirts, bathing suits and blankets. I read the post at antibloggedy, but where do I donate? or is it just a "drive" for pictures?
Mucho Confuso,
k

Unknown said...

I too will go through my closet when I buy something new. After the holiday we went through our girls toys and asked them "to pick 3 they were going to give away to another child who didn't have as much as they do". They didn't seem to enjoy the process, but I hope it's a lesson that will carry with them.

I however, am a fan of piles - have one on my desk and one that is the to-be-filed pile. Drives my hubby crazy!