I am on a Rudeness Rant these last few days. Is it too much to pick up the phone and let someone know if you and your family are coming for Thanksgiving after being invited three weeks ago? I know they are busy, (I am dripping in sarcasm here), but geez, my DH and I would like to get planning, cooking, and shopping. I'm ambivalent about calling them to ask them about their plans. My Dh and I feel like the ugly date stood up on prom night.
We like to entertain and are both good cooks who take pride in putting out a delicious spread. My husband, K is an excellent cook and knowledgeable about wines,part of his many charms) and I bake too, (my apple tart made with Apple Jack Liqueur and phyllo pastry is just a little slice of heaven.) However, rarely are our invitations reciprocated, folks say, "I could never compete with you two", even though we make it very clear we Are NOT Picky and happy with take out from the local pizza place. We have learned to be okay with this and we like to share our home just for the joy of being together.
However, I am suprised people can be so self centered and inconsiderate, and it just Frosts My COOKIES when they can't manage the most simple of courtesies. No one has to remind us to RSVP for any invitations. Have etiquette standards just been pitched along with simple civilities like eye contact and a "Thank you" or "Your welcome" instead of "No problem"? I didn't know friends, customers, or neighbors were a continual source of problems!
Okay, I'm done now, I feel better. Thank you for your indulgence in listening and wishing you nothing but politeness, gentility, and civility coming your way.
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OK, I'm completely with you and I do in fact pester people who slack on the response. I invited a bunch of people this year thinking for sure there would be the few standard declines. NOT! All 20 are coming. It would be 21 but my BIL's girlfriend is in France til December. I do not think you are rude. My cookies get frosted at such things. This year my whole T-Day was depending on what shift my hubby would be on at the pd. They just totally kept him in the lurch about his shift change. Agh! I'm with ya sister. Now I will have 20 people coming at 11 am and most bringing a dish to pass. That is the way it is and will have to be until we win the lottery and my husband goes to a different shift. He will have to leave the house at 1:45 that day for work and I will be left will a house full of people, food and mess. Which is fine because it was all my idea in the first place and I'm sure that people will pitch in because I also have a 21 month old toddler to tend to. I'm nuts, I know!!! Happy Thanksgiving! I would e-mail and or call til you get your answer though :)
Yes. I'm with you. And what's with people who are unable to write a thank you card?
I usually respond as soon as I get an invite.
I've thrown 3 showers over the past 2 years and it really gets my goat for people never to respond.
I second Mrs Spit on the thank you card idea as well. It should be hand-written and say more than "Thank you for the lovely gift."
I'd pester them too! Wish we lived in the same area. We'd invite you to dinner. I make an amazing mozzarella, tomato and pesto salad. And DH makes a stuffed pork roast with spinach, garlic and pine nuts that is amazing. We also just love having people come over to hang and eat our food. We're all not sure yet what's up with our plans for Thanksgiving. We might actually have it at our house, but I'm not sure. Hopefully we'll get that settled soon.
Rudeness must be spreading like wild fire across the country! Man, people are getting worse and worse!
Ditto on the reciprocating the parties/dinners, etc. DH and I both cook/grill/bake well and everyone comments on it. But come on! Sometimes I want a break and want someone to invite ME over for dinner!
I guess RSVP's are now optional. I think I solved that issue by sending e-vites for my last party - you have to respond with a yes, no, or maybe, and they keep pestering you until you do! No - no one has any manners any more. But I can't complain too much - I am occasionally guilty of the non-response too...
I just HATE rude people! Hiya, SITSta! My Great New Pop'rs Thanksgiving Extravaganza is still underway, so please come by and share some Comment Love!
okay, so i am gonna go out on a limb and say, i am that girl....the one you talk about in your letter. I would officially like to apologize for all of those who share that same selfish, inconsiderate tendency to put ones self first and forget about the etiquettes. I promise i will try harder! Please stay my friend, and promise you will invite me to the next get-together, I will make it up to you then. =)
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