Rudeness Rant

I am on a Rudeness Rant these last few days. Is it too much to pick up the phone and let someone know if you and your family are coming for Thanksgiving after being invited three weeks ago? I know they are busy, (I am dripping in sarcasm here), but geez, my DH and I would like to get planning, cooking, and shopping. I'm ambivalent about calling them to ask them about their plans. My Dh and I feel like the ugly date stood up on prom night.

We like to entertain and are both good cooks who take pride in putting out a delicious spread. My husband, K is an excellent cook and knowledgeable about wines,part of his many charms) and I bake too, (my apple tart made with Apple Jack Liqueur and phyllo pastry is just a little slice of heaven.) However, rarely are our invitations reciprocated, folks say, "I could never compete with you two", even though we make it very clear we Are NOT Picky and happy with take out from the local pizza place. We have learned to be okay with this and we like to share our home just for the joy of being together.

However, I am suprised people can be so self centered and inconsiderate, and it just Frosts My COOKIES when they can't manage the most simple of courtesies. No one has to remind us to RSVP for any invitations. Have etiquette standards just been pitched along with simple civilities like eye contact and a "Thank you" or "Your welcome" instead of "No problem"? I didn't know friends, customers, or neighbors were a continual source of problems!

Okay, I'm done now, I feel better. Thank you for your indulgence in listening and wishing you nothing but politeness, gentility, and civility coming your way.