Sympathetic Ear, anyone?

I am proud to say that I am usually good natured and even tempered. However, I am human, even more so now, that it is apparent that perimenopause is kicking my a$$ with a fair degree of moodiness, insomnia, and night sweats. I have observed people, (my husband specifically), don't take kindly ever to me having a bad day or expressing negativity. I often feel like I have to edit my negative feelings. My girlfriend puts it perfectly when she said, "Sometimes you just want your husband to just nod his head and say, "Those Ba$tards." I have learned I have to use a disclaimer when I need to vent to my husband, I will tell him, "I don't need you to judge or solve this problem, I just need you to support me and listen." With the disclaimer, Mr.Sense of Humor "gets it" (well most of the time). After almost 16 years of being together and 15 years of marriage, I am still learning about marriage and our relationship. I am still learning guys feel a need to fix things when all that's called for is a sympathetic ear.